Helpful Wedding Etiquette and Advice for Everybody
Wedding Etiquette and Advice
Planning a wedding is likely the biggest and most stressful event you will ever put together with the possible exception of your own daughter’s wedding many years from now.
There is no polite way to request gifts and most definitely do not mention gifts or a gift registry on the invitation or include a “gift registry card” which we have seen happen. Even if you are asking for donations to a charity this has no place on a wedding invitation.
Your friends who throw your shower can mention your gift registries on the shower invitation or pass on your wishes by word of mouth.
Be aware that if the wedding is cancelled or annulled before the couple lives together as man and wife, all gifts including shower gifts must be returned. Never use a shower or wedding gift before the wedding.
Destination weddings are becoming more and more popular. While tropical islands are the most common destinations, some couples choose ski resorts or romantic European places like Paris, Rome or Venice. Realize that many folks you invite will not be able to attend due to cost, work or family commitments. Also a couple that chooses a destination wedding is responsible for the lodging expenses of their attendants.
Consider that many of the people you would like to have at your wedding may not be able to afford the cost of attending. For instance your grandparents on a fixed income will not likely be able to afford the cost or health issues could keep others from traveling.
You may want to have a reception when you return home so folks who could not attend can feel a part of your celebration.
Since people who don’t attend the wedding may want to give gifts, use a family member’s name and address for your RSVP. That way people will have some place to send gifts. We hope this wedding etiquette and advice is helpful.